Self Discovery

This entry actually started out as a Facebook status update. But then once I started, I couldn’t stop. So I figured I’d delete the status update and make it a blog entry. I know how annoying long status updates can be sometimes.

Occasionally, when talking to others and offering them advice or encouraging words, we stumble upon something great inside of ourselves. When this happens, I know that the conversation we just had was more than meaningful. It didn’t just happen by chance, it was by grand design. Self discovery is one of the most fulfilling things I’ve personally ever experienced. It’s an amazing moment of clarity when you realize what you just offered as advice to someone else, in a completely different context, fits your life to a “T”.

Now the real test is application of the advice or encouraging words. If you can take them and apply them to your own situation, that’s when the real bliss hits you and you benefit the most from that conversation. Otherwise they are just words that have been spoken. Maybe they’ll help the person you’ve just given the advice to, maybe they won’t. But if you can take that advice and apply it yourself, you know for a fact that those words were more than just mere words.

I’ve given lots of advice, especially here recently. For the longest time I couldn’t fathom why people would come to me for advice about anything! I’m not a financial wiz; I don’t have a lot of money from investments or anything. Yet people ask me for advice about money. I’m not a relationship expert; I’m divorced and single. Yet people come to me with questions about their relationships. But what I do know is what doesn’t work. For both of those situations, money and love, I have made pretty much every mistake one can make. Equipped with that knowledge of what doesn’t work gives me something to give to people when they ask me what to do.

It wasn’t until after my “separation of employment” that this all hit me. I had nothing but time to reflect on the things that have happened in my life. Looking at everything from an objective standpoint, I could see where almost all of the advice I had given fits every situation of my own. With this knowledge and the application of my own advice, I can feel the tides changing. The pendulum is beginning to swing back in the other direction and things are finally starting to look up. I knew it would happen eventually; it always does. Sometimes it just takes it a little longer to swing the other way.


About John Shue

Just a normal guy in pursuit of happiness.
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2 Responses to Self Discovery

  1. I have always found you to be a very intelligent and talented human being. Sitting beside you at work for 12 hours, in my opinion allowed me to hear what you are writing. Your mind is a constant go. Your ideas are off the chain and sometimes even unusual but, interesting at most. When we would have discussions in dispatch. I could feel the stories. You are raw and speak and write with your emotions. One of my favorite qualities you hold. Your motivation has always been there. The unhappiness in your career is what has held you back. SO SOAR my friend. I believe that you are capable of great things.

  2. John Shue says:

    Thanks, Keona! But you didn’t sit beside me at work for 12 hours. We only worked 12 hour shifts…then you have to take into account your breaks. 😛

    I write exactly what’s in my head, and typically, that’s just about what would come out of my mouth. It makes me happy to know that I’m getting my stories across just like if I were sitting right there in the room with you. That is my goal, to tell a story just like I was sitting there with whoever might be reading.

    You’re right about that career holding me back. I let it beat me down for far too long. And even though I’m currently unemployed and I don’t have a steady source of income, my stress level isn’t anywhere near where it was when I was working there. My doctor was right when he said that place was literally killing me. I totally believe him now. I feel so much better knowing that I don’t have to wake up and go in there to deal with the day-to-day BS that takes place there. What’s funny is hearing others talk about that place. I’ve heard from several people now who envy me because I got out. They want to get out too, they’re just afraid or don’t know how. It’s sad really.

    But yes, great things are abound. You know of some of my plans. Some of my more intimate thoughts and feelings have been shared with you. It’s just a matter of time before the ball starts rolling on those things. 🙂

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