This entry actually started out as a Facebook status update. But then once I started, I couldn’t stop. So I figured I’d delete the status update and make it a blog entry. I know how annoying long status updates can be sometimes.
Occasionally, when talking to others and offering them advice or encouraging words, we stumble upon something great inside of ourselves. When this happens, I know that the conversation we just had was more than meaningful. It didn’t just happen by chance, it was by grand design. Self discovery is one of the most fulfilling things I’ve personally ever experienced. It’s an amazing moment of clarity when you realize what you just offered as advice to someone else, in a completely different context, fits your life to a “T”.
Now the real test is application of the advice or encouraging words. If you can take them and apply them to your own situation, that’s when the real bliss hits you and you benefit the most from that conversation. Otherwise they are just words that have been spoken. Maybe they’ll help the person you’ve just given the advice to, maybe they won’t. But if you can take that advice and apply it yourself, you know for a fact that those words were more than just mere words.
I’ve given lots of advice, especially here recently. For the longest time I couldn’t fathom why people would come to me for advice about anything! I’m not a financial wiz; I don’t have a lot of money from investments or anything. Yet people ask me for advice about money. I’m not a relationship expert; I’m divorced and single. Yet people come to me with questions about their relationships. But what I do know is what doesn’t work. For both of those situations, money and love, I have made pretty much every mistake one can make. Equipped with that knowledge of what doesn’t work gives me something to give to people when they ask me what to do.
It wasn’t until after my “separation of employment” that this all hit me. I had nothing but time to reflect on the things that have happened in my life. Looking at everything from an objective standpoint, I could see where almost all of the advice I had given fits every situation of my own. With this knowledge and the application of my own advice, I can feel the tides changing. The pendulum is beginning to swing back in the other direction and things are finally starting to look up. I knew it would happen eventually; it always does. Sometimes it just takes it a little longer to swing the other way.