It was a several years ago, back in early 2007, that I sent my sister an email that would forever change my life. I had been dumped by my girlfriend Rachael a few months prior to me sending the email to my sister and I was starting to feel good enough about myself to start dating again. I asked my sister if she had any good looking, single friends that she could introduce me to. Like I said, this was several years ago, so some of the details are a bit hazy at best, but anyway, I quickly got a response from my sister. She said that she had a friend named Amber that she thought would be a really good match for me. *At this point I had already seen Amber once, but she had been out partying like a rock star with my sister the night before.*
So Amber and I started talking, at first it was mostly in written form. Myspace was all the rage back then so we talked a lot on there. Amber was HUGE into texting and even though I barely knew what T9 was at the time, I learned quickly and eventually had to upgrade my texting package to “unlimited” (thanks to a $300+ phone bill!) We also talked on AIM quite a bit and spent hours typing back and forth to each other.
At some point, shortly before my birthday of that year, I asked my sister if she and Amber would be interested in going to a Stone Sour concert with me for my birthday. They didn’t really know what they were getting themselves into and agreed to go. It was my sister, Amber, my good friend Zach and me…off to see Stone Sour for my birthday! I really consider that our first “date” even though Amber had been to my apartment in Frankfort before that at least once or twice. Back to the date – before we went to the concert, we did what you would do on any good date, we ate dinner…at the Downtown Indy Hooters! After dinner we went to the concert. It was an evening of eye opening experiences for my sister and Amber to say the least!
After the Stone Sour concert, the tone was pretty much set for mine and Amber’s dating. We enjoyed doing things that most couples enjoy; going to movies, going to concerts, eating dinner at nice restaurants and even the occasional “stay in” date. The “stay in” dates were always my personal favorite. Our relationship progressed quickly, but naturally, and as we became closer we began spending more and more time together. Eventually Amber’s overnight stays ended up resulting in some of her clothes being left at my apartment. Before we really knew it, she was staying at my place more than hers. I’m not sure at what point she “moved in” but I think it was just something that happened and everyone was ok with it.
Amber and I had been dating for awhile and I started having thoughts of actually settling down, buying a house and starting a family with her. I wasn’t sure how any of this would actually go, but I just knew that one day soon, she’d be my wife. There was just something about this girl that made me want to be with her for the rest of forever! In fact, on several occasions I had gone to jewelry stores and looked at engagement rings by myself. Every time I visited the store I ended up leaving empty handed because I didn’t want to buy the wrong ring. In late 2007 Amber and I found out that we were going to be having a baby…this was such exciting news for us! I remember the day that we found out, we sat in the bathroom at the apartment in Frankfort and once the test said “pregnant” Amber looked at me and started laughing. The laughing soon turned to tears. Tears of joy, tears of anxiety, tears of all kinds of different emotions that were running through our hearts. We sat there in the bathroom for awhile just hugging each other. Thoughts about our future running through our minds.
Just before the pregnancy test, Amber and I had gone to Kay Jewelers to look at rings. I wanted to get an idea of what she liked. She looked at several different ones and I quietly studied the ones I could tell she was really interested in. Once again, we left the store without purchasing anything at that point. But like I said, that was before we found out that we were going to be having a baby! Shortly after our exciting news, I went back to Kay Jewelers and decided that I was going to do it…I was going to buy a ring and I was going to ask Amber to marry me! I hadn’t really thought about how I was going to ask her at this point I just knew that I wanted to be with her more than anything in the world! So there I was, a single guy, in a jewelry store, with a credit card. I knew the employees there could smell it on me, they could sense that I was there to spend money, and they were going to prey on me! Luckily for me, I had already studied up on rings and diamonds and I was equipped with the knowledge of what Amber liked in a ring. In my mind I had already picked out the perfect set. There was one slight problem, the set I had picked out, they didn’t have! I just had to have this ring today though! I asked the lady trying to sell me the ring what options I had. She suggested that we could order the ring I had picked out and it would be delivered to the store in a couple of weeks, or I could pick a different ring. I knew the style that I needed to get, so the decision for me was pretty simple. They had a ring similar to the one I had picked out, only with a larger center diamond and a little more expensive…but hey…it was for Amber! Now I’ve got the ring!
The original plan was to wait until Christmas morning to ask Amber to spend forever with me. But I had the ring already, and it was burning a hole in my pocket! I couldn’t just act like everything was normal when inside I was as giddy as a school girl. I knew that I was going to have to come up with another plan, another way to ask her. A few days before Christmas, Amber was at work and we had been texting each other back and forth. She was telling me how her day had been less than pleasing and right then, it hit me like a ton of bricks! I was going to cheer her up and make her night better! I couldn’t do anything elaborate since it was such a last minute idea, but I ran to the store and picked up some poster board, some stickers and some rose pedals. I used the stickers to write a little note on the poster board, asking Amber if she would marry me. I put that on our bed, sprinkled the rose pedals all over the bed, and placed the ring right below the note. It was all set up a few hours before she was going to be getting home and I COULD NOT WAIT!
After Amber got home, we walked toward the bedroom together as she was telling me about her night at work and how much it sucked. As we got into the bedroom, she took one look at everything set up on the bed and her story stopped. She jumped onto the bed and grabbed the ring and put it on her finger. There were tears in her eyes as we hugged (at this point she still hadn’t said yes.) So I asked her if she would marry me and if we could spend the rest of our lives together. She said YES!
to be continued…
Here is the Bible verse I’m going to leave you with today it comes from Proverbs. Chapter 18, verse 22:
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD. ” – Proverbs 18:22